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"The Divorce Came Out of Nowhere"

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I have never blogged about the instances that resulted in divorce. BUT I have recorded every thing to have enough to keep in my pocket for a day when I will need it. So he has now got a reputation to protect, he is now well known in the banking circles of Hong Kong and Singapore, he will never want any of this to get out. I don't bother to search for a third party, because honestly I don't care. My daughters are feminists, this I know. One of them will be 21 soon and the other will be 18 in a few years. They have helped me quietly get the financials in place, and only one joint property remains. Daily life is peaceful when he is away, I find the time to paint the most amazing things that I am proud of. My career has been on hold for 20 years while his has skyrocketed. I wanted to be there for my kids 100% and I do not regret a minute. In fact, I am proud that I did it. I think, now, that I will never ever want to complicate my life with a man in it again. And I wish h...
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A post from my former blog 10 years ago about divorce.

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https://singaporeexpathousewife.blogspot.com/2015/10/divorce.html And that's how I feel about it. I'm mentally OUT and have disassociated myself. My parents and kids are supportive because they have seen the mental, emotional and financial abuse. My friends are supportive. That's all I need. Until both my kids are 18, I have lawyers in all countries on standby.
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Middle Age. Menopause and Divorce

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All the above go hand in hand.  Oldest daughter is over 18 and youngest will turn 18 soon. Just waiting and waiting for that to happen.  Why am I waiting?  Two years ago, I told my parents, one of the hardest things I have ever done was to break down and cry, admit that my marriage has failed. My older daughter also broke down crying in front of her grandparents and told them about the fights and what she has witnessed in her childhood. SO NOW THEY KNOW. My father was once a practicing lawyer he has this advice for me: put my kids' welfare over everything and grit my teeth until my youngest turns 18. I would never want to put my youngest in a situation where there is a custody battle. I want to be a good parent for my kids and finish raising them well despite my resentment that my soon to be ex has not done the same all throughout the marriage. He think financial support equals emotional labour. You know the story, I left my career for my baby. I had postnatal depression....
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